The holiday season is upon us, and for many middle-aged women, it can be an overwhelming time as they navigate the life-altering symptoms or full blown throws of “the change,” and grapple with feelings of relevance and value at  home, the workplace and in society.  It can be a challenge to tap into the joy of the season while dealing with surmounting physical and personal change and the whirlwind of holiday stress and nostalgia.  Whether you’re traveling, grappling with changing traditions, conquering gift giving or reluctantly embracing changing family dynamics - like your first holiday season without your adult children - it's crucial to find your bliss and maintain a sense of gratitude and grace.  In the midst of the hustle and bustle, here are some strategies to help you navigate the season with poise and appreciation.

• Holiday Travel: Embrace the Journey

Holiday travel can be both exciting and exhausting.  It might also be inevitable, depending on the geographic locations of your loved ones. Whether you're visiting family or exploring new destinations, approaching travel planning as early as possible and with a patient and positive mindset can make a significant difference.  The key is intentional preparation.

Instead of focusing solely on the destination, savor the journey. Use this time to reflect, unwind, and appreciate the opportunity to create lasting memories. Consider incorporating mindfulness practices, such as deep breathing or meditation, to stay grounded during the hustle of airports and highways.  You may want to try losing yourself in a compelling book or carving out time for your favorite fitness regimen, whether it be a brisk walk or a strength training routine.

• Changing Holiday Traditions: Embrace Adaptability

As life evolves, so do our holiday traditions. Children grow, families expand, and circumstances change. You shouldn’t carry this burden alone.  Maintain an open dialogue with your family members and welcome their emotions and ideas for new traditions that everyone can get on board with.  Whether it's hosting a potluck dinner, organizing a virtual gathering for distant relatives, or trying a new holiday activity, be open to change while acknowledging your feelings and those of your loved ones. Cherish the moments, no matter how different they may look from years past.

• Gift Giving: Prioritize Thoughtfulness Over Extravagance

The pressure to find the perfect gifts can be overwhelming. Instead of succumbing to the stress of shopping, prioritize thoughtfulness over extravagance. Setting a budget and list of people you’re buying for helps manage the chaos of shopping, though it’s vital to stick to the budget and list without deviating from either of them.  Consider gifts that hold sentimental value or experiences that create lasting memories. Handwritten notes, personalized gifts, or the gift of your time can often be more meaningful than expensive presents. Remember, it's the thought that counts, and genuine gestures of love and appreciation go a long way.

• Dealing with Difficult Family Members: Set Boundaries and Practice Empathy

Family dynamics can be challenging, especially during the holidays. If you find yourself dealing with difficult family members, set clear boundaries to protect your mental and emotional well-being. Communicate openly and assertively, expressing your needs while remaining empathetic to theirs and don’t be afraid to excuse yourself from triggering situations. Self-preservation is your priority, but also remember that everyone is navigating their own challenges.  Practicing patience and understanding can help diffuse tension. Surround yourself with your allies and supportive individuals while focusing on the positive aspects of family gatherings.

• Cultivate Gratitude Daily: Start a Gratitude Journal

Amid the chaos, take a moment each day to reflect on the things you are grateful for. Starting a gratitude journal can be a powerful tool for cultivating a positive mindset during the onslaught of change you may be physically and psychologically going through, and during a hectic holiday season.  Write down three things you are thankful for each day, whether it's a small moment of joy, a supportive friend, or a personal achievement. This practice can help shift your focus from the stressors of this season of your life (and the season) to the abundance of blessings in your life.

The holiday season provides an opportunity to infuse gratitude and grace into every aspect of our lives. By embracing the journey, accepting change,  prioritizing thoughtfulness, setting boundaries, and cultivating gratitude, we can navigate the holiday hustle masterfully and marvelously. Remember, the true magic of the season lies in the love and connections we share with others.